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Avoiding Financial Conflict In A Household

By using money, we can buy a lot of things, but unfortunately money can’t buy happiness n a family. Money matters can be a trigger of a conflict in a household, moreover not few couples who divorced because of money. There was a shocking survey result that financial became one of the main reason the divorce in United States. It was about 75% couples divorced wrote that financial issue was main reason of their divorces. It was not only happened in America, but the same thing happened in Indonesia. Religion Court Of Samarinda wrote that economic issue became the highest cause of the failure of a family.

Dr. Allen C. Carter, a psychologist form Atlanta, United States, said that money is a symbol of power in a relationship and usually became root of problems “power war” between couples. Another perspective from Shelvin Louise Marie Hall, a judge from Chicago said that money is just a symbol that state what have been done by spouse. “The war is not about money, but about love and lack of expression of love in a household.” She elaborated, “If a wife said that her husband did not spend his money for her, what actually she meant was that her husband did not care for her, because if the husband cared for her, he must have spent his money for her.

The point is the wife wants more attention. When a wife went to shopping all the time, and the husband felt that his wife had spent his money and did not care about the source. What actually he meant was that his wife should be at home more, and focus herself to build their relationship and not to be in the mall all the time.”